My heart is broken over the loss of Micheal Jackson. I can't believe that he's gone and I can't believe that he passed away without knowing how much we all loved him. Time will tell that he's the greatest that ever did it. Especially since no one makes music like he did anymore--music without boundaries, music with abandon, music with a pulse that brought life to the entire world. There's no denying it. Whether you're one of the cynics that believe the negative press and played into the "Wacko Jacko" character the media created or not--Michael's music speaks for itself.
Some people will say that the fact that we're all now coming out about our love for Michael Jackson is hypocritical. That the fact that everyone is playing his music, buying his records, and admitting he was their inspiration is somehow wrong. Remember the saying "you don't know what you got till it's gone?" Well, that's a fact of life. We as humans always take things for granted--our parents, our loved ones, our health, our wealth--things as big as our freedom and as small as our fast metabolisms--and losing things has always been our reminder of how important things are. So for me, this new wave of Michael fanatism is a part of how humanity learns. If anything, we will think back to how we ridiculed Britney Spears and bashed Mariah Carey and thank God that they had the chance to get back to the top after we tore them down. Those two women also impact the world through music and would be missed if they were gone.
In conclusion--just between us girls--I feel a heavy guilt over the fact that Michael Jackson died when he did. I can honestly say I never believed he touched those kids. And he was found not guilty as well. Now his not guilty isn't like R Kelly's where there is tape and someone had to come forward and lie. As a writer I believe people's true spirits are in their lyrics (granted today I think most rappers are lying in their music) and Michael Jackson had the most inspirational things to say in his music--he always had the intentions to change the world with his music and told the world that it could be done. That's the Michael Jackson I was inspired by and the Michael Jackson I love. So why do I feel guilty? Because I laughed at all the jokes, watched people distort his words and turn them into perversion and still supported those people, I never argued my point of his innocence when people brought up his guilt.
It seems like most non-urban media outlets and people are still determined to tarnish his legacy though and that saddens me. What makes me happy is we Jackson fans will not let them do that without a fight. Ask Perez Hilton. Michael Jackson was a part of every musician's life and will continue to be as those he influenced influence us. May we remember that our words have power and our celebrities are human. Let's stop building up people to tear them down.
“If you enter this world knowing you are loved and you leave this world knowing the same, then everything that happens in between can be dealt with.”--Michael Jackson
That quote makes me feel that Michael Jackson spent his life forgiving us for the way we treated him. I pray that his 50 show tour selling out in 4 hours let him know that we still loved him and his music. I pray that 750,000 tickets let him know we still wanted and loved his music.
Stay beautiful inside and out.
Saturday, June 27, 2009
Vegetarian Mindset: No Beef
Yes, my friends--another Twitter related blog. If you need an update on what Twitter is read my first blog post ever. And then crawl out from under that rock.
I have had the chance to do some great networking because of Twitter and I have been able to give the people that sorta/kinda knew me a better insight into who I am--an insomniac who thinks deeply, inspires easily, and trips and falls frequently. (No really. I can't walk without tripping.) And in turn, I have also had the chance to get to know people I never really knew that well. And I love that. I love making new friends. I love people. Don't know where that came from but I genuinely love people in general. Maybe its the idea that we really all are one and our differences are only barriers in our own minds.
This is getting deeper than I planned.
The point is I realized this morning that I don't have any beef with any female. Not one girl I know is a girl that I hate. I don't know about the other way around but I'm pretty confident no girl has beef with me. Being on Twitter has allowed me to see that girls are catty. I go out with my girls and I say "Hey, that's my friend from Twitter" and I get told "Oh, I hate that girl. She's fake/she's a hoe/she's a bitch" and my loyalty to my friend is silently questioned. Of course I'm not gonna go up to the girl and talk to her after that. But in my mind I'm like: "She's a friend to me till she does something to me personally." Or till she does something to one of my friends that's not related to a guy.
In conclusion--between us girls--why is that we as women always let a man come between us? I arrived home from the club last night to two police cars at my friends complex where the cop described it as "ten girls fighting over one guy." Heard homie has a regular girl but has another on the side who stays with him a week per month and pays his bills while she's in town. Not to mention him tryna sweet talk my girls all the time--even me. And apparently some girls he's messed with were out at the club and started beef with my girls. I say that's karma for his ass but why didn't any of those women realize that HE was the issue and not the other girls? I'll never understand that. If you find yourself at constant odds with another female over a man shouldn't you take a look at the situation a little more closely? I'm just saying--men are rarely worth the drama. Get the "vegetarian mindset" with me ladies.
Stay beautiful inside and out!
I have had the chance to do some great networking because of Twitter and I have been able to give the people that sorta/kinda knew me a better insight into who I am--an insomniac who thinks deeply, inspires easily, and trips and falls frequently. (No really. I can't walk without tripping.) And in turn, I have also had the chance to get to know people I never really knew that well. And I love that. I love making new friends. I love people. Don't know where that came from but I genuinely love people in general. Maybe its the idea that we really all are one and our differences are only barriers in our own minds.
This is getting deeper than I planned.
The point is I realized this morning that I don't have any beef with any female. Not one girl I know is a girl that I hate. I don't know about the other way around but I'm pretty confident no girl has beef with me. Being on Twitter has allowed me to see that girls are catty. I go out with my girls and I say "Hey, that's my friend from Twitter" and I get told "Oh, I hate that girl. She's fake/she's a hoe/she's a bitch" and my loyalty to my friend is silently questioned. Of course I'm not gonna go up to the girl and talk to her after that. But in my mind I'm like: "She's a friend to me till she does something to me personally." Or till she does something to one of my friends that's not related to a guy.
In conclusion--between us girls--why is that we as women always let a man come between us? I arrived home from the club last night to two police cars at my friends complex where the cop described it as "ten girls fighting over one guy." Heard homie has a regular girl but has another on the side who stays with him a week per month and pays his bills while she's in town. Not to mention him tryna sweet talk my girls all the time--even me. And apparently some girls he's messed with were out at the club and started beef with my girls. I say that's karma for his ass but why didn't any of those women realize that HE was the issue and not the other girls? I'll never understand that. If you find yourself at constant odds with another female over a man shouldn't you take a look at the situation a little more closely? I'm just saying--men are rarely worth the drama. Get the "vegetarian mindset" with me ladies.
Stay beautiful inside and out!
Tuesday, June 23, 2009
Silence is Golden
Haven't been able to really blog lately cause I realize now that I can't be as honest as I really want. I'm not Carrie Bradshaw lol. People will read what I have to say and honestly be offended. There's nothing like being seen through the eyes of someone else. I love the people I call friends but I see their flaws just as much as I see mine. I accept them just the way they are--can you imagine someone thinking about you all the worst things you think about yourself? And then blogging about it? Not cool.
In conclusion--between us girls-I want people to learn from my life and the people around me but is their enlightenment worth my friendships? Not at all lol. I want people to read what I have to say but Orlando is a small town and the more I meet people the more people are gonna know who I'm talking about. I had sooo much I wanted to say over the past weeks but didn't because well--I have a conscience. Sometimes the best answer is not to say anything at all.
Stay beautiful inside and out!
In conclusion--between us girls-I want people to learn from my life and the people around me but is their enlightenment worth my friendships? Not at all lol. I want people to read what I have to say but Orlando is a small town and the more I meet people the more people are gonna know who I'm talking about. I had sooo much I wanted to say over the past weeks but didn't because well--I have a conscience. Sometimes the best answer is not to say anything at all.
Stay beautiful inside and out!
Sunday, June 14, 2009
Fine As Wine
I like my men like I like my wine: aged, sweet, and moderately priced. I'm a sucker lately for the 35 and up men. Or maybe its because they like me. I think I've got all the features of a woman that a real man can appreciate (sorry I never understood the women with 12 year old bodies gettin any kinda play.) Maybe it is because I'm a bigger woman the older men like me but that's got nothing to really do with anything I have come to find out. Hands down I believe I'm beautiful just the way I am after years of forcing my body to be what it's just not. It took a long time and I'm finally there and I know for a fact that I can take your man if I wanted to lol. It's a funny thing to know someone for a while who I know never would give me the time of day and then to see that look on his face when I he realizes that I'm kinda hot is the greatest. That's why I never settle and I shake off dudes I know are approaching me because they think I need love like that. I gets love--BALLLLEEEEE DAT and I want someone who thinks I'm beautiful just the way I am and can appreciate the fact that I'm smart as hell and like the Beyonce says--I can definately "upgrade" him. But that's a whole other blog.
There's something about being able to have a conversation with someone that's appealing to me. I don't know if getting to know someone is a dying art but that's how I determine if a guy is worth my time or not. Playing the love game with someone is irrelevant to whether or not I can be with that person (now if we have to talk about how good it is, that's a different story.) That may sound crude but it's the truth. We all have needs. I'm attracted to the same things phyisically in any man. But I refuse to feel like I'm too good to be with any dude. "I'm known to walk alone but I'm alone for a reason." Ya'll know I used to hate on Beyonce, right? She's that chick for real though lol
In conclusion--just between us girls--does it seem like younger men are loosing the idea of "the chase?" You know, having to put in a little work before they get the goodies we all know they want? I feel like the value of a woman has decreased dramatically and maybe that has to do with the fact that the music we listen to tends to sell P as a product but back in the day (from what I hear) guys actually tried to make you like them before making "those" kinda moves. What I tend to get from older men is a little more attention in that area. Granted its not a huge improvement (don't make me elaborate...my recents will be ashamed) but the idea that I gave my number out so I can just get to know him isn't a big shocker to an older man. Maybe I'm lucky cause I get the one's with no kids OR ex wives so I don't know the true pain of being over a decade younger than the man I'm dating. But there's nothing like being with a man I wouldn't mind submitting to (yeah I said submitting--there can't be two bosses.) Today's guys need to take a lesson from the oldshchool. I want someone to make me feel like a woman should feel: treasured, respected, and beautiful. Can a girl get a little ROMANCE?
Stay beautiful inside and out!
There's something about being able to have a conversation with someone that's appealing to me. I don't know if getting to know someone is a dying art but that's how I determine if a guy is worth my time or not. Playing the love game with someone is irrelevant to whether or not I can be with that person (now if we have to talk about how good it is, that's a different story.) That may sound crude but it's the truth. We all have needs. I'm attracted to the same things phyisically in any man. But I refuse to feel like I'm too good to be with any dude. "I'm known to walk alone but I'm alone for a reason." Ya'll know I used to hate on Beyonce, right? She's that chick for real though lol
In conclusion--just between us girls--does it seem like younger men are loosing the idea of "the chase?" You know, having to put in a little work before they get the goodies we all know they want? I feel like the value of a woman has decreased dramatically and maybe that has to do with the fact that the music we listen to tends to sell P as a product but back in the day (from what I hear) guys actually tried to make you like them before making "those" kinda moves. What I tend to get from older men is a little more attention in that area. Granted its not a huge improvement (don't make me elaborate...my recents will be ashamed) but the idea that I gave my number out so I can just get to know him isn't a big shocker to an older man. Maybe I'm lucky cause I get the one's with no kids OR ex wives so I don't know the true pain of being over a decade younger than the man I'm dating. But there's nothing like being with a man I wouldn't mind submitting to (yeah I said submitting--there can't be two bosses.) Today's guys need to take a lesson from the oldshchool. I want someone to make me feel like a woman should feel: treasured, respected, and beautiful. Can a girl get a little ROMANCE?
Stay beautiful inside and out!
Promoters are the New Tax Collectors
I grew up in a Christian environment so the title is obvious to me. For those of you on the road to eternal damnation the Bible used to reference tax collectors as the skeeziest people on earth. They were unfair, they stole, they oppressed the people and the people hated them but could do nothing about it. So read, the title again and put two and two together. I'll wait...you good? Ok.
Good thing I have decided to become a promoter myself. Tao Entertainment coming to a venue near you. But I digress....
With all this NBA hoopla, Orlando promoters have had an unreal amount of fuel to make profits. I see "official" this and that, name dropping of local celebs, hinting at celebs being in the building, price gouging on entry fees...all the shit that makes me shake my head in sadness. Most people who go out on the regular here will know my face but they didn't know my name till recently--or still don't know it at all. And that's on purpose. You will know my name in due time. I spent the last year going out to events, making notes on DJs and promoters, sizing up venues and crowds so I could get in the game and do it better than the rest. I know what I like and what I don't like as an independent, self-made woman and I want to duplicate that for women like me. So, yeah I know everything about almost everything night life here and I did it by actually spending my money and going out. I rarely get on lists because I understand that people are tryna make money but sometimes I feel like--you don't need my money as bad as I need a drink lol. Guest list please?
In conclusion--just between us girls--I feel like there hasn't been any promoter to really brand themselves for the best recreation in town. I know people will pay for what they feel is worth it. I understand that we're in this to make money but the people we need in the buidlings shouldn't feel that way. Some of the hottest club nights in town have unhappy patrons that only go because there is nothing better. I hear the grumblings in the crowd all the time and I'm gonna hate myself for saying this but THERE IS NO FRIGGIN CUSTOMER SERVICE! I can't believe we're forced to wait in line for over 30 mins and then offered the chance to end our wait for an extra fee when we got in line before 11pm. I can't believe that fellas have to pay more at the door than us ladies. I can't believe that we're hooked into coming to see a celeb host and that person doesn't even show up or if they do its for 10 mins and we get nothing. I can't believe that if I pay my entry fee and the night is a clear bust I get no compensation. I can't believe that on top of parking and entry we're asked to pay for weak ass drinks (I drink wine or Long Islands so I never drink free) and I also can't believe that one person can advertise one thing for the same club night and venue and another can advertise something else and I get the deal that screws me out of my money. Orlando is not New York. Orlando is not Atlanta. Orlando is not Miami. Hell, I'm hearing we aren't even TAMPA. Let's get it together. We have the potential to be way better than we are.
Stay beautiful inside and out!
Good thing I have decided to become a promoter myself. Tao Entertainment coming to a venue near you. But I digress....
With all this NBA hoopla, Orlando promoters have had an unreal amount of fuel to make profits. I see "official" this and that, name dropping of local celebs, hinting at celebs being in the building, price gouging on entry fees...all the shit that makes me shake my head in sadness. Most people who go out on the regular here will know my face but they didn't know my name till recently--or still don't know it at all. And that's on purpose. You will know my name in due time. I spent the last year going out to events, making notes on DJs and promoters, sizing up venues and crowds so I could get in the game and do it better than the rest. I know what I like and what I don't like as an independent, self-made woman and I want to duplicate that for women like me. So, yeah I know everything about almost everything night life here and I did it by actually spending my money and going out. I rarely get on lists because I understand that people are tryna make money but sometimes I feel like--you don't need my money as bad as I need a drink lol. Guest list please?
In conclusion--just between us girls--I feel like there hasn't been any promoter to really brand themselves for the best recreation in town. I know people will pay for what they feel is worth it. I understand that we're in this to make money but the people we need in the buidlings shouldn't feel that way. Some of the hottest club nights in town have unhappy patrons that only go because there is nothing better. I hear the grumblings in the crowd all the time and I'm gonna hate myself for saying this but THERE IS NO FRIGGIN CUSTOMER SERVICE! I can't believe we're forced to wait in line for over 30 mins and then offered the chance to end our wait for an extra fee when we got in line before 11pm. I can't believe that fellas have to pay more at the door than us ladies. I can't believe that we're hooked into coming to see a celeb host and that person doesn't even show up or if they do its for 10 mins and we get nothing. I can't believe that if I pay my entry fee and the night is a clear bust I get no compensation. I can't believe that on top of parking and entry we're asked to pay for weak ass drinks (I drink wine or Long Islands so I never drink free) and I also can't believe that one person can advertise one thing for the same club night and venue and another can advertise something else and I get the deal that screws me out of my money. Orlando is not New York. Orlando is not Atlanta. Orlando is not Miami. Hell, I'm hearing we aren't even TAMPA. Let's get it together. We have the potential to be way better than we are.
Stay beautiful inside and out!
Life Lessons from Michael Jackson
"If you're thinkin about my baby, it don't matter if you're black or white." NOW it doesn't matter but BACK THEN--Mama told me "Try to only date men the same color as you or lighter." I know she's not a racist because she's Irish/Jamaican and her childrens' father was as black as night and she tends to date men of that skin tone. I guess the fact that she has ivory skin makes for "better" complexion---anywhoo the point is this: I was concious of the idea of color defining beauty at a young age. I never had a problem with the color of my skin--its right in the middle so I'm not light skinned enough to get the first glance but i'm not dark enough to get the last glance. I know that sounds harsh but that's just the way things are. They are changing every day but to quote Gwen Stefani and Andre 3000--"we got a long way to go."
I never have a problem seeing white women with black men. Secretly I wonder why a black woman wasn't good enough for him but love is love (or more accurately--lust is lust lol.) This might sound crazy but I was only attracted to white guys growing up and through out high school. There were some Spanish dudes in the mix but it was mostly white guys. Was I a sell out? No. It wasn't intentional, I was around a lot more white guys than I was black at the time. In college, I finally discovered my true attraction for a man is his smile, personality and model-like attractiveness lol. I became a sucker for beautiful bone structures and blindingly white smiles and that led me into a love for men of all skin tones. Lately, I find myself attracted to African, Haitain, Jamaican, mixed and Latino men. It's like white guys don't do it for me anymore. Its funny that I used to be ashamed of liking guys outside my race. I would have never confessed that I liked white guys five years ago. I guess I'm growning into accepting who I am and what I like.
Maturity has given me a wider scope for beauty. Its not that I no longer like white guys its that I have added men of all shades to the list. Usually, if the personality sucks I can't follow through with the deal. Its not a crime to look, though. I enjoy man candy. When I see a couple that's white guy and black girl and its not a white guy that's hood--I feel a little like progress is being made in the world. For a white man to look at a black woman and see beauty is a huge thing. It's not the same as a white woman liking a black man because black men have everything a white man has (and then some ) physically. Black women tend to be the opposite of what history has deemed beautiful. And its not the same as when a black guy dates a white girl--it just isn't. I never understand how some black guys are so handsome and they date the ugliest white girls. If you're a black woman you know what I'm talking about. I'm a big, beautiful black woman and I can't turn the head of a black man who's dating a white woman my size (0ften bigger) for nothing lol. She doesn't even have to dress right, either. It's annoyingly frustrating.
In conclusion--just between us girls--interracial dating is about the shift in the idea of beauty, isn't it? For a long time dark was bad and light was good. Dark-skinned people still get overlooked to me, though. The color line is blurring, yes but I see beauty in people no matter what their shade is and there are people who still say "I prefer this over that." I highly doubt those who "prefer" ever keep their minds open to other options. I have a friend who makes fun of me for liking "those foreign guys" meaning the non "regular" blacks like Africans and Haitians. I take it all in love but it does get me thinking about my generation. Now, there are more mixed kids out there in the world so it's easy for kids to accept people of different races as far as mating goes (yeah I said mating lol) so I'm not worried about the future. It's the now that scares me. Race is a hard thing to discuss because it affects everyone and the conflict comes when people assume that it doesn't. I grew up in a color blind world (three white sisters, three Mexican foster sisters, a light skinned sister, a dark skinned one, a Philipino step dad and a pure Jamaican ado mom with Irish features of pale skin, green eyes and red hair, my "family" I spend all my time with now is German lol) so I feel a little wreckless in talking about color since I know and have loved people from all races as family. People are beautiful regardless what there skin looks like. And when people my age start to see beyond the physical--beyond what they have programmed themselves to believe--more people will get laid. Had to end on a lighter note lol.
"I'm not gonna spend my life being a color."
Stay beautiful inside and out!
I never have a problem seeing white women with black men. Secretly I wonder why a black woman wasn't good enough for him but love is love (or more accurately--lust is lust lol.) This might sound crazy but I was only attracted to white guys growing up and through out high school. There were some Spanish dudes in the mix but it was mostly white guys. Was I a sell out? No. It wasn't intentional, I was around a lot more white guys than I was black at the time. In college, I finally discovered my true attraction for a man is his smile, personality and model-like attractiveness lol. I became a sucker for beautiful bone structures and blindingly white smiles and that led me into a love for men of all skin tones. Lately, I find myself attracted to African, Haitain, Jamaican, mixed and Latino men. It's like white guys don't do it for me anymore. Its funny that I used to be ashamed of liking guys outside my race. I would have never confessed that I liked white guys five years ago. I guess I'm growning into accepting who I am and what I like.
Maturity has given me a wider scope for beauty. Its not that I no longer like white guys its that I have added men of all shades to the list. Usually, if the personality sucks I can't follow through with the deal. Its not a crime to look, though. I enjoy man candy. When I see a couple that's white guy and black girl and its not a white guy that's hood--I feel a little like progress is being made in the world. For a white man to look at a black woman and see beauty is a huge thing. It's not the same as a white woman liking a black man because black men have everything a white man has (and then some ) physically. Black women tend to be the opposite of what history has deemed beautiful. And its not the same as when a black guy dates a white girl--it just isn't. I never understand how some black guys are so handsome and they date the ugliest white girls. If you're a black woman you know what I'm talking about. I'm a big, beautiful black woman and I can't turn the head of a black man who's dating a white woman my size (0ften bigger) for nothing lol. She doesn't even have to dress right, either. It's annoyingly frustrating.
In conclusion--just between us girls--interracial dating is about the shift in the idea of beauty, isn't it? For a long time dark was bad and light was good. Dark-skinned people still get overlooked to me, though. The color line is blurring, yes but I see beauty in people no matter what their shade is and there are people who still say "I prefer this over that." I highly doubt those who "prefer" ever keep their minds open to other options. I have a friend who makes fun of me for liking "those foreign guys" meaning the non "regular" blacks like Africans and Haitians. I take it all in love but it does get me thinking about my generation. Now, there are more mixed kids out there in the world so it's easy for kids to accept people of different races as far as mating goes (yeah I said mating lol) so I'm not worried about the future. It's the now that scares me. Race is a hard thing to discuss because it affects everyone and the conflict comes when people assume that it doesn't. I grew up in a color blind world (three white sisters, three Mexican foster sisters, a light skinned sister, a dark skinned one, a Philipino step dad and a pure Jamaican ado mom with Irish features of pale skin, green eyes and red hair, my "family" I spend all my time with now is German lol) so I feel a little wreckless in talking about color since I know and have loved people from all races as family. People are beautiful regardless what there skin looks like. And when people my age start to see beyond the physical--beyond what they have programmed themselves to believe--more people will get laid. Had to end on a lighter note lol.
"I'm not gonna spend my life being a color."
Stay beautiful inside and out!
Wednesday, June 10, 2009
I <3 Basketball
Last night's game was phenomenal. I mean, this whole series as a Magic fan has caused me multiple mild heart attacks but last nights game was proof that the Orlando Magic has a chance to take it home. I'm gonna believe until the end so I'm going to put it in writing: The Orlando Magic will make a believer out of you.
If I can remember correctly we had two history making moments. First, we had the highest field goal percentage in a first half of a final at 75% and this is the first finals game the Orlando Magic has ever won. I'm proud to be from Orlando even though I was born in LA and my heart longs to be there one day with my mom and brother. I can't deny that Kobe is an amazing player but "he's a SUCKY person!" (thanks Lauren Conrad--I can't say that enough lol.) Not only did we make history we had a darling little autistic girl sing one of the hardest songs on national TV and the Orlando Magic gave voice to a mute child. The Magic is into making miracles.
All that aside, the reason I have fallen in love with the Orlando Magic is the players. We have some major man candy on the team and if you had the pleasure of viewing the finals games with me downtown at the Plaza Theater, then you know that what I really came to see. It's hard to pretend that I'm not secretly wondering what it would be like to play the love game with an NBA star when they're sweating and running and jumping and their arm and back muscles are flexing and their calves are...well let me stop before I get in trouble.
I have had the pleasure of meeting some of the players while I've been out on town but since I refuse to be a groupie I always act like its no big deal. Last night Jameer Nelson was standing right in front of me as I waited for my friend outside Dragon Room and I acted like I had no clue who he was lol. I wanted to congratulate him on the game but didn't know if people knew he was there and didn't want to be the one to start anything. I got rejected by JC Chasez once for that reason and I never forgot how his buddy explained to me why he kept shaking his head and walking away when I was yelling "JC! JC!" Haha. That was a weird night...ANYWHOOOOO--back to the point: We have some hotties on our team. And some DEFINITE not-so-hotties but I'm all about love for the home team today.
Out of respect for the fact that these people may have girls or wives I'll just list who I like and why I like him and that will be the end of it.
#3. Dwight Howard: He's so funny! I have a dumb sense of humor and I'm sure that we'd be cracking up for hours over nothing. I love that he smiles all the time, too. It lets me know that he still thinks what he does is fun.
#2. Rashard Lewis: I love his quiet intensity. I've seen him out and he's just low key. Scopes the crowd, keeps to himself, and really not into all the scene stuff. But you know the boy is bad when he steps on the court.
#1. Courtney Lee: Behind that mask is the sweetest face ever. He has this innocence about him outside the game but he's aggressive on the court and that makes me feel like he's a confident man. If I had to choose a player to get to know, it would be him. I'd like to know what makes him laugh.
In closing--just between us girls--I'm not trivializing all the great things we did last night. I'm keeping it real on what keeps me hooked to these games. I never watched basketball on TV before this although I loved going to the games. When I was at the games, I spent a lot of time talking and joking around and all I cared about was the outcome. Now I'm hooked for the entire 48 mins. That's the power of a fine ass man!
Stay beautiful inside and out!
If I can remember correctly we had two history making moments. First, we had the highest field goal percentage in a first half of a final at 75% and this is the first finals game the Orlando Magic has ever won. I'm proud to be from Orlando even though I was born in LA and my heart longs to be there one day with my mom and brother. I can't deny that Kobe is an amazing player but "he's a SUCKY person!" (thanks Lauren Conrad--I can't say that enough lol.) Not only did we make history we had a darling little autistic girl sing one of the hardest songs on national TV and the Orlando Magic gave voice to a mute child. The Magic is into making miracles.
All that aside, the reason I have fallen in love with the Orlando Magic is the players. We have some major man candy on the team and if you had the pleasure of viewing the finals games with me downtown at the Plaza Theater, then you know that what I really came to see. It's hard to pretend that I'm not secretly wondering what it would be like to play the love game with an NBA star when they're sweating and running and jumping and their arm and back muscles are flexing and their calves are...well let me stop before I get in trouble.
I have had the pleasure of meeting some of the players while I've been out on town but since I refuse to be a groupie I always act like its no big deal. Last night Jameer Nelson was standing right in front of me as I waited for my friend outside Dragon Room and I acted like I had no clue who he was lol. I wanted to congratulate him on the game but didn't know if people knew he was there and didn't want to be the one to start anything. I got rejected by JC Chasez once for that reason and I never forgot how his buddy explained to me why he kept shaking his head and walking away when I was yelling "JC! JC!" Haha. That was a weird night...ANYWHOOOOO--back to the point: We have some hotties on our team. And some DEFINITE not-so-hotties but I'm all about love for the home team today.
Out of respect for the fact that these people may have girls or wives I'll just list who I like and why I like him and that will be the end of it.
#3. Dwight Howard: He's so funny! I have a dumb sense of humor and I'm sure that we'd be cracking up for hours over nothing. I love that he smiles all the time, too. It lets me know that he still thinks what he does is fun.
#2. Rashard Lewis: I love his quiet intensity. I've seen him out and he's just low key. Scopes the crowd, keeps to himself, and really not into all the scene stuff. But you know the boy is bad when he steps on the court.
#1. Courtney Lee: Behind that mask is the sweetest face ever. He has this innocence about him outside the game but he's aggressive on the court and that makes me feel like he's a confident man. If I had to choose a player to get to know, it would be him. I'd like to know what makes him laugh.
In closing--just between us girls--I'm not trivializing all the great things we did last night. I'm keeping it real on what keeps me hooked to these games. I never watched basketball on TV before this although I loved going to the games. When I was at the games, I spent a lot of time talking and joking around and all I cared about was the outcome. Now I'm hooked for the entire 48 mins. That's the power of a fine ass man!
Stay beautiful inside and out!
Monday, June 8, 2009
Bathroom Etiquette: Boy's Edition
If I could be the Pause Police for lames in clubs across America I would be fining men right and left. Last month there was Bathroom Etiquette for ladies. The male edition is a lot more serious. Guys have about 30 seconds to get on a girls good side and 98% of the time they get shut down in less then ten. We ladies assume that guys in the club only want one thing. And we're not mad at that. We're mad at how you go about getting it. Fellas, here are your Do's and Don'ts.
Warning: If you are a man and you regularly break any of these rules, you are a lame.
DONT TOUCH: I didn't get all dressed up for you to feel all over me. C'mon, you can look all you want but DON'T touch. Can you honestly say you got a positive response from doing that fellas?
DONT SNEAK N FREAK: That's when you see a girl you like and you just come up behind her and start dancing. It's annoying to have to make the "Who the hell is behind me?!?!" face to my girls and then have them go into rescue mode. You may get a mercy grind or two but that's only cause I'm waitin for the next down beat to get away from your pervy ass.
DONT IGNORE THE GROUP: If you see a girl you like the last thing you want to do is alienate her friends. We instinctively assume that she doesn't want you around and will invent a bathroom break or need for another drink.
DONT TALK ABOUT SEX: Talking about sex when you meet a girl at the club is the ultimate sign of disrespect. I always feel insulted and disgusted when that happens to me. I also feel self conscious about how I'm dressed too cause I always wonder if I'm giving off a cheap girl vibe. Of course I'm not but I wonder...lol
DONT ASK ME TO BUY YOU A DRINK: And don't ask for a sip of my drink. That's the lamest thing you can do. I will give you the meanest screw face and walk way. It's not even a funny joke.
DONT IGNORE MY MAN: If I tell you I have a boyfriend or a husband I am politely saying I'm not interested. It's a poor reflection of your character to say "Who cares" or "Can't you have a friend?" If I wanted to cheat on my man with you, I wouldn't have mentioned him. Read that again. IF I WANTED TO CHEAT ON MY MAN WITH YOU, I WOULDN'T HAVE MENTIONED HIM.
DO INTRODUCE YOURSELF: I can never be rude to someone who comes up to me and introduces themself. We're almost programmed to stop and shake hands in that situation. It's way less threatening than being touched by someone you don't know.
DO ASK FOR A DANCE: You may get rejected but if you don't you can't deny that dancing with someone who actually agrees to dance with you is more fun than the sneak n freak.
DO MAKE FRIENDS WITH THE GROUP: If we like you, we're more likely to let our girl have her time with you and we may even be on your side when you finally ask our girl to dance.
DO BUY ME A DRINK: Now I only say that in the case you spill my drink. In these days I'm sure if you offer to buy a girl a drink she'll either decline, think you want to take advantage of her with roofies, or assume you are gonna buy for her whole crew lol. I hate when a guy spills my drink and just looks at me. Not a good look.
DO COMPLIMENT RESPECTFULLY: I go out and show out so I appreciate compliments. They make me feel good. If I make you wanna take me home and play the love game you don't have to tell me that. Find another way to let me know you like how I look without touching or creeping me out. Compliments are the easiest and safest way to do that.
DO ASK FOR THE NUMBER: It's always sad when I meet a cutie who does all the right things and vibe and he doesn't ask for the number. If you've been getting positive responses all night, chances are the number is yours.
DO ASK FOR A DATE: The only place that's acceptable to invite a girl to that same night is Dennys (or your favorite food stop that's open 24 hours.) You get so many more points if you call the next day and ask to meet in a neutral location.
You'll find that the basic theme is RESPECT. If we feel respected, you're less likely to be rejected.
Warning: If you are a man and you regularly break any of these rules, you are a lame.
DONT TOUCH: I didn't get all dressed up for you to feel all over me. C'mon, you can look all you want but DON'T touch. Can you honestly say you got a positive response from doing that fellas?
DONT SNEAK N FREAK: That's when you see a girl you like and you just come up behind her and start dancing. It's annoying to have to make the "Who the hell is behind me?!?!" face to my girls and then have them go into rescue mode. You may get a mercy grind or two but that's only cause I'm waitin for the next down beat to get away from your pervy ass.
DONT IGNORE THE GROUP: If you see a girl you like the last thing you want to do is alienate her friends. We instinctively assume that she doesn't want you around and will invent a bathroom break or need for another drink.
DONT TALK ABOUT SEX: Talking about sex when you meet a girl at the club is the ultimate sign of disrespect. I always feel insulted and disgusted when that happens to me. I also feel self conscious about how I'm dressed too cause I always wonder if I'm giving off a cheap girl vibe. Of course I'm not but I wonder...lol
DONT ASK ME TO BUY YOU A DRINK: And don't ask for a sip of my drink. That's the lamest thing you can do. I will give you the meanest screw face and walk way. It's not even a funny joke.
DONT IGNORE MY MAN: If I tell you I have a boyfriend or a husband I am politely saying I'm not interested. It's a poor reflection of your character to say "Who cares" or "Can't you have a friend?" If I wanted to cheat on my man with you, I wouldn't have mentioned him. Read that again. IF I WANTED TO CHEAT ON MY MAN WITH YOU, I WOULDN'T HAVE MENTIONED HIM.
DO INTRODUCE YOURSELF: I can never be rude to someone who comes up to me and introduces themself. We're almost programmed to stop and shake hands in that situation. It's way less threatening than being touched by someone you don't know.
DO ASK FOR A DANCE: You may get rejected but if you don't you can't deny that dancing with someone who actually agrees to dance with you is more fun than the sneak n freak.
DO MAKE FRIENDS WITH THE GROUP: If we like you, we're more likely to let our girl have her time with you and we may even be on your side when you finally ask our girl to dance.
DO BUY ME A DRINK: Now I only say that in the case you spill my drink. In these days I'm sure if you offer to buy a girl a drink she'll either decline, think you want to take advantage of her with roofies, or assume you are gonna buy for her whole crew lol. I hate when a guy spills my drink and just looks at me. Not a good look.
DO COMPLIMENT RESPECTFULLY: I go out and show out so I appreciate compliments. They make me feel good. If I make you wanna take me home and play the love game you don't have to tell me that. Find another way to let me know you like how I look without touching or creeping me out. Compliments are the easiest and safest way to do that.
DO ASK FOR THE NUMBER: It's always sad when I meet a cutie who does all the right things and vibe and he doesn't ask for the number. If you've been getting positive responses all night, chances are the number is yours.
DO ASK FOR A DATE: The only place that's acceptable to invite a girl to that same night is Dennys (or your favorite food stop that's open 24 hours.) You get so many more points if you call the next day and ask to meet in a neutral location.
You'll find that the basic theme is RESPECT. If we feel respected, you're less likely to be rejected.
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