Calm down fellas. It's not what you think. But this blog is for you and i'm sure my ladies can relate and agree. This blog is for all the married and booed up men that can't seem to keep their hands out of the cookie jar. It's a disgusting and annoying and immature habit that you guys have and you need to quit. Seriously. It's 2009, you don't have to be with that girl if you really don't want to be. If she's paying your bills or making life easier for you to the point where you don't wanna leave then the least she deserves from you is your loyalty you bastard.
Now I'm very open about the fact that I rather have a friend with benefits if not for any other reason than the fact that I am a commitment-phobe as I am young and ambitious and grew up with traditional Christian values of what a woman's role is in a relationship. That's why when I'm not exactly your girlfriend I still feel free and open to pursue my dreams and neglect helping you with yours. So when I ask you if you have a girlfriend or if you are married and you tell me no that's what I expect to be true. Trust me, I'm not trying to spring commitment on you as a surprise but more I'd rather build a friendship and keep my chances for disease low. We can talk and that's just fine for me. AS LONG AS YOUR'RE SINGLE.
I become a hoe when YOU ARE NOT SINGLE! When you actually have a girlfriend and/or a wife then you have made me a hoe. And I have no choice in the matter. Because when your woman finds out, that's how you're gonna treat me and that's just how shit goes. Cause if this situation goes down with one of my girls there ain't no way in the world the other girl isn't automatically the hoe. Now I am too good to be anyone's jumpoff. And I'm sure as hell not gonna bring that kinda karma into my life. It's one thing for a girl to know that you're in a relationship and not care but when I tell you that I care and the possibility of us eventually being together is all my mother needs to be happy then please please please please please don't act suprised when I cut your ass off after I find out that you aren't single. That's a level of skeeze I'm not going to approach for anything.
In conclusion--just between us ladies--we shouldn't settle for second best with any guy. It's never worth it. Cause when you have to think about the fact that your calls are ignored so hers can be taken, that she's watching all the movies you're hoping to see with him, that he actually tells her HE LOVES HER, and that she can make plans with him whenever she wants without any restrictions--why would you knowingly do that to yourself? We let men get away with so much! Listen to Latoya Luckett--"No more settling for less" You better cop that single if you have an issue with this and say "I DON'T WANT IT ANYMORE!"
Stay beautiful inside and out!
Friday, July 17, 2009
It's What's for Dinner
If you had the chance to read Vegetarian Mindset then you know what I mean when I say "I spoke too soon." If you haven't had the chance to read it then go ahead...I'll wait...you good? Good. I can officially say that I HAVE BEEF! It's crazy cause you think if you keep to yourself, seperate the real from the fake, and mind your business you can escape it. Clearly false.
So why would a sweet, loving, educated woman of my stature have beef with anyone? Well it goes like this: I finally came to the clear understanding that someone I used to do-everything-but-call-it-dating with was not a friend of mine but an opportunist and a user. Now he'll swear up and down that he thought we were cool and I'm only mad because I expected something and never got it but trust me--when someone is practically living at your house and you tell them that things gotta change when you find out about his girlfriend and then you never hear from them again--that is not your friend. Sorry buddy. I was a friend to you because I went without plenty of times so you could have. I opened up my house and my loved ones to you as well. I was your friend. You were not mine.
So this GIRL and him work in the same place. We link through a mutual friend and I tell her lets chill and shoot the shit, get to know each other because I respect a boss bitch as much as any female who's secure in her shit. She wants me to chill where she works and I tell her that I'd rather not run into that guy and why. Granted I shoulda known after she told me a bald face lie at dinner and also told me she lost her virginity at 13 (not judging but that tells me where someone's head is at) that I shouldn't be tellin this girl shit. There's something very childish about her actions--the way she swears she's makin moves, the way she talks to people who work with her, the way she clowns dudes who really like her for the fun of it. It's funny how being 5 years older than someone can seem like centuries...
Anyway, I get a call from him tellin me that he's been hearing people talk around town and that I've been running my mouth and ruining his name or whatever he said. I was caught off guard at first and he kept saying he thought we were cool and I tried to tell him as best I could that unfortunately he treated me like a skank hoe and there is no way I could be friends with someone like that but he hung up on me. Now my first reaction to was to want to call the bitch up and ask her why in hell would my name need to come up in a conversation with him and then tell her how I know her dirt and get "Ghetto Shanetto" on her. But thank God I have a brain that lets me think because I don't want to mess up someone's job over bull. Granted this person did me wrong but I respect the fact that he is working hard to get where he needs to go.
In conclusion--just between us girls--I officially have beef with someone. She should know by now even though I haven't said anything directly to her. And I won't out of respect for someone's job but I would like to just mush her little ass without explanation. You know how some people aren't even worth the full effort of a punch? Yeah just a flat mush to the face for this broad. Why would you cause drama with someone you barley even know? Why would you bring drama to my door and tell him somethin that I was going to tell him when the time was right? Some people just don't know that because I act nice doesn't mean I'm a nice girl. I was born uncomfortable and I been fighthing my whole life and I'm not gonna let no one make me uncomfortable that isn't trying to make me a better person.
So why would a sweet, loving, educated woman of my stature have beef with anyone? Well it goes like this: I finally came to the clear understanding that someone I used to do-everything-but-call-it-dating with was not a friend of mine but an opportunist and a user. Now he'll swear up and down that he thought we were cool and I'm only mad because I expected something and never got it but trust me--when someone is practically living at your house and you tell them that things gotta change when you find out about his girlfriend and then you never hear from them again--that is not your friend. Sorry buddy. I was a friend to you because I went without plenty of times so you could have. I opened up my house and my loved ones to you as well. I was your friend. You were not mine.
So this GIRL and him work in the same place. We link through a mutual friend and I tell her lets chill and shoot the shit, get to know each other because I respect a boss bitch as much as any female who's secure in her shit. She wants me to chill where she works and I tell her that I'd rather not run into that guy and why. Granted I shoulda known after she told me a bald face lie at dinner and also told me she lost her virginity at 13 (not judging but that tells me where someone's head is at) that I shouldn't be tellin this girl shit. There's something very childish about her actions--the way she swears she's makin moves, the way she talks to people who work with her, the way she clowns dudes who really like her for the fun of it. It's funny how being 5 years older than someone can seem like centuries...
Anyway, I get a call from him tellin me that he's been hearing people talk around town and that I've been running my mouth and ruining his name or whatever he said. I was caught off guard at first and he kept saying he thought we were cool and I tried to tell him as best I could that unfortunately he treated me like a skank hoe and there is no way I could be friends with someone like that but he hung up on me. Now my first reaction to was to want to call the bitch up and ask her why in hell would my name need to come up in a conversation with him and then tell her how I know her dirt and get "Ghetto Shanetto" on her. But thank God I have a brain that lets me think because I don't want to mess up someone's job over bull. Granted this person did me wrong but I respect the fact that he is working hard to get where he needs to go.
In conclusion--just between us girls--I officially have beef with someone. She should know by now even though I haven't said anything directly to her. And I won't out of respect for someone's job but I would like to just mush her little ass without explanation. You know how some people aren't even worth the full effort of a punch? Yeah just a flat mush to the face for this broad. Why would you cause drama with someone you barley even know? Why would you bring drama to my door and tell him somethin that I was going to tell him when the time was right? Some people just don't know that because I act nice doesn't mean I'm a nice girl. I was born uncomfortable and I been fighthing my whole life and I'm not gonna let no one make me uncomfortable that isn't trying to make me a better person.
Life Unscripted
Its been a long time ladies! I have been chasing dreams at high speed and crashing in all directions. I'm a perfectionist--a mover n shaker--a go getta--but even I have low points. The idea is to get back up when you fall down, huh. And I have been slowly picking myself up. Ain't nothin wrong with that.
One thing I can say is I have had the time to check out all these other urban bloggers and I'm completely different. I'm not posting celeb pics or celeb gossip or pushing new music (no matter how good it is) its just plain ol' me tryna chat it up with my fellow divaglam ladies. Hopefully, my issues can become your insights and we can learn together. It's not about me being famous and talking crap about people its about me keeping it real. Well real enough that I don't lose any ACTUAL friends ;)
In conclusion--just between us girls--if you rock with me, you won't be disappointed. I'm literally writing a novel chapter by chapter and you can come a long for the ride. It takes a lot to branch out and do your own thing and to keep it going when it seems no one even cares. Lately I been feeling like all the dreams I have had and need support to make happen are on life support. And if I stop believing in em, I'm gonna be back into a corporate american shit hole because they'll be gone. Well I never been one to stop believing in myself and I'm not gonna start now. All it takes is that "tipping point" I been telling you about. So if you're finding life isn't going the way you planned--improvise.
Stay beautiful inside and out!
One thing I can say is I have had the time to check out all these other urban bloggers and I'm completely different. I'm not posting celeb pics or celeb gossip or pushing new music (no matter how good it is) its just plain ol' me tryna chat it up with my fellow divaglam ladies. Hopefully, my issues can become your insights and we can learn together. It's not about me being famous and talking crap about people its about me keeping it real. Well real enough that I don't lose any ACTUAL friends ;)
In conclusion--just between us girls--if you rock with me, you won't be disappointed. I'm literally writing a novel chapter by chapter and you can come a long for the ride. It takes a lot to branch out and do your own thing and to keep it going when it seems no one even cares. Lately I been feeling like all the dreams I have had and need support to make happen are on life support. And if I stop believing in em, I'm gonna be back into a corporate american shit hole because they'll be gone. Well I never been one to stop believing in myself and I'm not gonna start now. All it takes is that "tipping point" I been telling you about. So if you're finding life isn't going the way you planned--improvise.
Stay beautiful inside and out!
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