Study Shows Men are USELESS

A friend of mine posted an article on Fabebook called Women Are Overtaking Men in the U.S. from Sphere.com. It definately made me lqtm (laugh quietly to myself--I'm tryna get this to catch on) since I've been thinking this for years now. I know I sound like I'm contradicting myself when I say I'm not looking for a man but I can't wait to get married. But the reason I say I'm not looking for a man is because I truly don't need one for ANYTHING if I need to be bluntly honest. And I do mean ANYTHING if you can pick up what I'm putting down lol. I know the kind of man that I want to marry and that I will marry and it will be truly a miracle if we ever find each other. I want someone who is educated, motivated to succeed, and who won't tie me down and prohibit me from pursuing my simple plan of world domination. That's all.

When I read this I was happy that research was there to back up my feministic viewpoint.

 "Women really have become the dominant gender," said Guy Garcia, author of "The Decline of Men." "What concerns me is that guys are rapidly falling behind. Women are becoming better educated than men, earning more than men, and, generally speaking, not needing men at all. Meanwhile, as a group, men are losing their way."

I know I always talk to you ladies, but if there are any men out there that can raise their hand and say this is not true, please do so. Because from where I sit in the city of Orlando, there really is no debating on this this. Especially among people of color. It can find 20 females to every one male who has a undergraduate degree or higher. And I think that knowing how much better educated I am than my male counterparts and knowing how truly independent I am makes me a harder catch. I can't take any man seriously who is doing worse off than I am. Especially if he's older than me.

In conclusion--just between us girls--I really and truly feel I will be single for years to come. I refuse to settle just to be with someone and past men I have dated have allowed me to wear the pants financially and it's now a complete turn off. Am I crazy for feeling like I'm too good to be with a guy who hasn't taken the time to invest in himself through school or entreprenuership? Is that really shallow? I don't think so. I'm tryna be a part of relationship that rivals Jay and Beyonce, Swizz and A.Keys, or Barack and Michelle. I want to be a part of something that's ever changing, growing and making a difference. Whether it is just me ending up like Kris Kardashian and Bruce Jenner, I want to be a part of a loving committed situation where my husband is just as successful as me if not better. I say if he can't at least do for me what I am doing for myself then that guy is truly USELESS.

Stay beautiful inside and out!

Wife Me vs "One Night" Me

It's come to my attention lately that guys in this town really think they're slick. And they must think women are idiots, as well. It's appalling to me how dudes try and sweet talk you into sleeping with them. How they try and make you think that they're looking for love and committment so you'll let your guard down and they can go in for the kill. Again, it's no secret that I'm a committment phobe and while I'd like to say I have been in love, I can't. I'm afraid of the trust that goes into something like that and nine times outta ten I'm dealing with some joker who thinks I'm like that next chick and is tryna run game. I'm not that next chick and you'll learn that very quickly. When all you need a man for is the love game the playing field becomes even. Chances are you think you're runnin game on me but you can't run game on someone that already knows the plays homie. So I decided to compile a list for the fellas (feel free to add on what you think too ladies) to let them know we're on to them.

Wife Me: He calls almost everyday to see how I'm doing. If he doesn't call, he's at least texting--or tweeting.
One Night Me: He only calls once every few weeks. Tries to act like he's been so busy but been thinking about you. Asks if he can "come through" later.

Wife Me: He returns calls and texts in a timely manner. Contacts you more before midnight than he does after midnight.
One Night Me: Never returns calls or texts and if he does its always after midnight and usually sounds like "So what you gettin into"

Wife Me: He holds my hand, the inside of my elbow, the small of my back.
One Night Me: He grabs my ass, tries to touch my boobs, or actually does touch them.

Wife Me: The conversation usually consists of things that matter to me, to him, or to the world.
One Night Me: Always sexually oriented conversations

Wife Me: Sends me pics of himself doing silly things or seeing silly things
One Night Me: Asks me to send "Cassie shots"

Wife Me: Kisses me on the mouth after a good love game
One Night Me: Hugs me when he's leaving after the love game

Wife Me: Makes sure that I get mine if he get's his
One Night Me: Gets his and goes to sleep. Doesn't even gear up for round two.

Wife Me: Calls me beautiful
One Night Me: Calls me sexy

Wife Me: Invites me out on a date where we can get to know eachother
One Night Me: Wants to come over and chill or go over and chill

Wife Me: Would rather hold off talking about sex early into knowing me
One Night Me: Pretends to be curious about "what I can do" claims to be a "sexual person"

Wife Me: Likes more things about me than the physical
One Night Me: Knows nothing about me but the physical

Wife Me: Kisses me on the mouth
One Night Me: Kisses me on the cheek

Wife Me: Comes out to the club to see me, chill with me, drink with me
One Night Me: Bounces around the club with all different kinds of girls getting numbers till he stumbles across me

Wife Me: Treats me like a friend
One Night Me: Treats me like his toy

Lord knows I could go on the basic gist is this: there is a difference in how you treat a girl you want to be with and a girl you just want to sleep with. Guys seem to think the game plan is the same but it's the subtle differences that give it away and should let you know where you stand with that man in your life ladies. Especially if you aren't official. I'm a show and prove kind of girl. And if you start running in one direction I'm gonna drag you the whole way down. Say what you mean to say and be direct. I don't know where they make girls that don't know the difference or think that you can go from being the hoe to the housewife. If I think a guy sees me as a hoe, I see him as a hoe and treat him accordingly. You may have thought you had me sucked in but check your call log homie. The proof is in the pudding.

Stay beautiful inside and out