It's almost winter and I am looking for sombody I can call boo as Ciara would say. But until I find that special winter wonderland I'm still just bouncing around with the Mr. Right Nows. Don't judge me. We all have needs and some of us aren't afraid to admit it.
Now, like I said, I never thought I'd be sexually active without being married but life has turned out to be that way for me. A tragic tale of blind love (or lust) and crippling heartbreak and here I am two years later as "the cow that's giving the milk away for free." Let's be honest since it's just us girls, most of you are too. We're unmarried and giving away the milk.
The reason I had always wanted to hold on to my virginity is because I saw myself as something special--a prize to be given to the most worthy. And I truly believed that my man was gonna buy the cow. But since that didn't happen and I'm giving away the milk for free, how do I save something special for the man who does decide to buy the cow? That my friends, I call "cookies."
"Cookies" are those little extras that I save only for someone special to me. There a places I am willing to go sexually that won't venture into with just any ol' body. For example, I don't send pictures of my body to random dudes. That's probably one thing guys hate most about me. It's the first thing they need being visual creatures but the last thing I'm willing to give up. I don't like the idea of having my body on display for someone who could give two shits about me. I cringe at the thought that my ass or boobs or 'area' being a part of some loser's phone montage of chicks.
I always told myself I'd be adventurous in the bedroom for my man because we know what they say, "What you won't do another chick will." I truly believe in allowing your man to act out his sexual fantasies with you to maintain a level of excitement and freedom in your relationship. Granted I don't think that will keep him from cheating but I believe the duty of a good woman or wife is to be there for her man on that level.
In conclusion--just between us girls--treat your "cookies" like the deserts of your sexual encounters. Don't give them to just anyone. Guys expect so much from us sexually these days without making any committment. I can't tell you how many times a man has approached me on a first encounter about sex. With sex flooding our mainstream media and music on the regular it's understandable. But in a society where men are getting free milk we just HAVE to make them buy the cookies. Don't be a little freak in the bedroom for just any ol' body. Make a list of things that you want to reserve for your someone special. Make somethings sacred. One thing I have made sacred is my naked body. I also make sex in any place besides a bedroom off limits. Those are just some of the G rated things I can list. Think about some things that you would like to save for that special someone and list them below in the comments. My list is pretty long and some things guys raise eyebrows about but don't get it twisted "shorty is a freak--but only for her man though."
Stay beautiful inside and out!
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