Where the MEN at?

My good friend DJ Skream posted on Twitter "being single is not the same as being independent" and he was right. But in my case I am both and it's been a blessing and a curse. All I know is the men--excuse me--fellas out here in Orlando really need to step their game up. I'm just saying. Just because I don't need anything financially from you doesn't mean that you get to leave the traditional male role mentality at my front door. I always dreamed of being a part of a power couple like Barack and Michelle, Brad and Angelina, or Jay and Beyonce. Now it seems like any guy I meet who sees that I have my own car, my own place, no kids, and my own money just wants a free ride.

Now I'm all about taking care of mine and nothing makes me happier than giving but I'm so over having to deal with the "Gimme Guys." Really? We been dating for how long now and you still haven't offered to take me out or cook for me and I have been doing that for you? Not cool. You know who you are. I also hate how guys expect to get some without putting in any effort. I mean can you at least PRETEND you want to get to know me? Then they act all mad when you keep the goodies in the jar. Whatever. I got this one dude who used to text me at bootycall hours all the time and he never ONCE asked me to do anything in the daytime. Never once. Since he doesn't have a car I just pretended I forgot one night and told him to drive on over. Haven't gotten a text since.

I understand what it is a woman is supposed to do in a relationship. I'm old fashioned like that. But you gotta enhance my life or get on the next flight cause I don't have time to deal with free loaders--lames--losers--SCRUBS (lmao I remember that song) because I'm on my Miss Independent movement.

There was a time when it was okay to be a female who just got by on her looks and linked up with a successful man but times have changed. It's all about women making it happen for themselves and being proud of it. I don't know if its just here in Orlando but that scale has tipped and now the guys seem to be gold digging. And I know it may seem shallow but you wouldn't say that if you knew what I went through lol. I think its fair to expect the guy I'm with to match my swag and then some.

In conclusion--just between us girls--I know we need love no matter how much we are expected to be Superwomen. But does that mean we have to settle and put up with fellas that aren't worth our time? Trust me, I will be the first to admit I have been guilty of it and I know some of you reading right now are looking over at your dude with that look in your eye lol. Fabulous says "a man is supposed to help you out with the groceries" in his song "Throw it in da Bag" and I believe that. A women should never do more for her dude than he is doing for her.

Stay beautiful inside and out!